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A candle for the last hour of the day.
Optional. The step above works without it.
Guide · Your plan · Calmer evenings
Wind down for calmer evenings
Evenings get calmer when the last hour of the day has a shape. This plan gives it one: a start time, lower light, a warm cup without caffeine, a short relaxation practice, and a bedroom that is ready. It follows the NHLBI's healthy-sleep habits and the NCCIH's summary of relaxation techniques, and it says plainly where the evidence is thin.
- Current step
Step 1: Set a wind-down hour
Pick a bedtime you can keep, then keep the hour before it as quiet time: no intense exercise, no work, nothing that needs an answer tonight.
Moderate effortPractice~60 min- Why it is here
- The NHLBI's healthy-sleep habits include using the hour before bed for quiet time and avoiding intense exercise in it. A fixed start makes the hour happen.
- Effort
- An hour you were spending anyway, spent differently.
- What is known
- An NHLBI-recommended habit. No claim is made about any condition; it is the frame the other steps sit in.
Step 2: Lower the lights and park the screens
Dim the room for the last hour and keep TV, laptop and phone out of it, or at least out of the last thirty minutes. Charge the phone somewhere other than the bedside. A candle lit at the same time each evening is a simple cue that the day is winding down.
Light effortPractice- Why it is here
- The NHLBI advises avoiding bright artificial light such as a TV or computer screen before bed, and a dark, quiet, cool bedroom.
- Effort
- No time; a few switches.
- What is known
- NHLBI guidance on light before bed. This plan does not claim a candle or any product improves sleep; it is a cue.
- Be careful of
- NoteNever leave a candle or incense burning unattended or where you might fall asleep with it lit.
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Step 3: A warm cup without caffeine
Make a caffeine-free cup in the wind-down hour: chamomile, peppermint or lemon balm are the traditional evening teas. Keep it small, and keep it early enough that it does not wake you to use the bathroom.
Light effortInsufficient~5 min- Why it is here
- The NHLBI lists caffeine, including tea, among the things to avoid before bed. A warm, caffeine-free cup gives the hour a ritual without the stimulant.
- Effort
- Five minutes.
- What is known
- The ritual is the point, not the herb. For chamomile, the NCCIH says studies have not produced enough reliable evidence to rate its usefulness for specific conditions, and research on it for insomnia is minimal; it is 'likely safe' in the amounts found in tea. Read each plant's profile before choosing one.
- Be careful of
- AllergyChamomile is in the same plant family as ragweed, chrysanthemums, marigolds and daisies; people sensitive to those are more likely to react to it (NCCIH).
- InteractionThe NCCIH notes possible interactions between chamomile and drugs such as warfarin and medicines broken down by the liver, and that its safety in pregnancy and breastfeeding is unclear. Check the profile and ask a pharmacist if you take regular medicines.
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Step 4: Five minutes of slow breathing or muscle relaxation
Sit or lie down, breathe slowly and low into the belly for five minutes, or work through a progressive muscle relaxation: tense each muscle group for a few seconds, then let it go, from feet to face.
Light effortLimited~5 min- Why it is here
- These are two of the relaxation techniques the NCCIH describes, and they need no equipment, no app and no purchase.
- Effort
- Five minutes, most evenings.
- What is known
- The NCCIH describes preliminary evidence that diaphragmatic breathing can reduce self-reported stress, and says research is insufficient to know how relaxation techniques affect chronic insomnia. So: reasonable to try for feeling calmer in the evening; not a sleep fix.
- Be careful of
- ConditionThe NCCIH notes relaxation techniques are generally considered safe, with rare reports of increased anxiety or intrusive thoughts, and that some techniques might worsen symptoms for people with epilepsy, certain psychiatric conditions or a history of trauma. If that is you, talk with your clinician first.
Step 5: Set the bedroom up, and keep late meals and drinks light
Keep the bedroom quiet, cool and dark. Avoid a heavy meal within a few hours of bed, and skip alcohol before bed; a light snack is fine. If you nap, keep it to twenty minutes and earlier in the afternoon.
Light effortPractice- Why it is here
- Each of these is on the NHLBI's list of healthy sleep habits.
- Effort
- Mostly one-time setup.
- What is known
- NHLBI guidance. Habits, not claims about any condition.
Step 6: If sleep has been hard for months, ask about CBT-I
If trouble falling or staying asleep happens three or more nights a week and has gone on for more than three months, the habits in this plan are a start, not the whole answer. Ask a doctor, nurse or therapist about cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-I). It usually runs six to eight weeks, and you can do it in person, by phone or online.
CommittedEstablished- Why it is here
- The NHLBI describes CBT-I as usually the first option recommended for long-term insomnia. The American Academy of Sleep Medicine gives it its strongest recommendation, and suggests that sleep-habit advice on its own is not enough for chronic insomnia.
- Effort
- Six to eight weeks of sessions, plus practice at home.
- What is known
- A strong recommendation in the American Academy of Sleep Medicine's 2021 guideline, built on a systematic review of the trials, and the NHLBI's usual first option for long-term insomnia. It is for chronic insomnia specifically; for the occasional rough night, the other steps are the place to start.
- Be careful of
- Ask a clinicianPart of CBT-I can make you sleepier during the first weeks. Work through it with the person guiding you, and be careful driving if you feel drowsy.
Step 7: Read before you buy a sleep supplement
If you are thinking about melatonin, magnesium, valerian or another supplement, read its profile first: what the NIH says the evidence shows, and the cautions. Then decide, and tell your clinician or pharmacist what you take.
Light effortPractice~10 min- Why it is here
- This plan does not recommend a supplement. Supplements are sold without the review medicines get, they can interact with medicines, and the evidence behind most sleep supplements is thinner than the labels suggest.
- Effort
- Ten minutes of reading.
- What is known
- A reading habit, not a health claim. The evidence notes and cautions live on each plant profile, in the cited NIH pages' own words.
- Be careful of
- Ask a clinicianTalk with a clinician or pharmacist before starting a supplement if you take prescription medicines, are pregnant or breastfeeding, or have a medical condition.
When it is a clinician’s question
Stop working the plan and ask a professional if you notice
- Trouble falling or staying asleep most nights for more than a few weeks.
- Loud snoring, gasping, or waking unrefreshed most days.
- Anxiety, low mood or racing thoughts that stay with you.
Keep reading
- Calmer evenings · 3 min
Sources
- Sleep Deprivation and Deficiency - Healthy Sleep Habits (opens in a new tab) · NHLBI · read September 15, 2026
- Relaxation Techniques: What You Need To Know (opens in a new tab) · NCCIH · read September 15, 2026
- Chamomile (opens in a new tab) · NCCIH · read September 15, 2026
- Insomnia - What Is Insomnia? (opens in a new tab) · NHLBI · read September 23, 2026
- Insomnia - Treatment (opens in a new tab) · NHLBI · read September 23, 2026
- Behavioral and psychological treatments for chronic insomnia disorder in adults: an American Academy of Sleep Medicine clinical practice guideline (J Clin Sleep Med, 2021) (opens in a new tab) · NIH · read September 23, 2026
Reviewed September 23, 2026.